January

Stop Being Selfish

Trials in Life

Sharing on Online Usrah Sessions in January

NY - Sunday, January 31, 2021 - January , Stop Being Selfish , Trials in Life

Assalamualaikum,

Last night I attended the second session of online usrah with my usrah friends from UTM. The usrah whatsapp group has been silent for the past 2 years with very minimal posting since most of us have completed our studies, back for good and pursuing careers in other places. So last 2 weeks, our naqibah, Kak Amy had suggested to do online usrah for those who have the time so at least we can keep updated with each others and remind each other like what we used to do while we were in UTM. After some discussion, we decided to choose either Friday or Saturday night from 9pm to 11pm for the weekly session.

Our 1st online usrah session, we ponder the verse from Chapter Yunus (7-20)

I chose to elaborate on verse number 11 where Allah mentions,

Dan kalau Allah menyegerakan bagi manusia azab sengsara yang mereka minta disegerakan, sebagaimana mereka minta disegerakan nikmat kesenangan, nescaya binasalah mereka dan selesailah ajal mereka. Oleh itu, (Kami tidak menyegerakan azab yang dimintanya), Kami biarkan orang-orang yang tidak menaruh ingatan menemui Kami itu meraba-raba dalam kesesatannya. (Yunus 10:11) 

I shared with the group that for me, the verse is both a reminder and a warning for us who have been negligent in our responsibilities as a muslim. For example, when we pray to Allah, we always ask for all the good things that we can think of and we want it fast. During this pandemic, i am sure that those who have been tested with losing job and retrenchment have been praying for one so that they can support and feed their family, praying for it desperately and they need it to happen immediately. 

But what we often take for granted is that when we think of doing sins, and we are aware that the sins will lead us to hellfire, the thought that Allah will immediately punish us as fast as we want Allah to accept and raise our du'a did not cross our mind, apparently. 

It is indeed a shameful act, for us the servant when we dont take things seriously about all the warnings that our Lord has mentioned in the AQ.

All in all, what i can conclude from everyone's sharing on the first usrah session is that, STOP BEING SELFISH. We only think of God in bad times, and we forget Him in good times. But we often deny that we forget Him during good times as we pray 5 times a day and we commit with both the fardhu and the sunnah. But what we often missed out is when the call to do sins with our eyes, ears and mouth, we try to justify them in our hearts that they are ok. Indeed, it's the small sins that makes us such an arrogant servant.

 Our 2nd online usrah session, we ponder on verses in Surah Al-Imran (174-186).

I elaborated on verse number 181 where the verse mentions that the kufur said Allah is fakir and they are the wealthy ones. Subhanallah.

The verse makes me wonder why on earth did the kufur said those things to Allah, so i refer to the Tafsir Ibn Katsir where,

Sa`id bin Jubayr said that Ibn `Abbas said, "When Allah's statement,

(Who is he that will lend to Allah a goodly loan so that He may multiply it to him many times)

(2:245) was revealed, the Jews said, `O Muhammad! Has your Lord become poor so that He asks His servants to give Him a loan' Allah sent down this verse (3:181)

(Indeed, Allah has heard the statement of those (Jews) who say: "Truly, Allah is poor and we are rich!'') (3:181).''

This Hadith was collected by Ibn Marduwyah and Ibn Abi Hatim.

So when i read the tafsir, i understood that the kufur, they make fun of Allah's statement in the AQ based on surah al-Baqarah verse number 245, and they are being cynical and arrogant jerk by saying those to the Lord who created them.

All in all, the discussion last night was mostly on trials and tribulations in life that we have to endure while perceiving it positively by putting all of our hopes and believe in our creator. A lot of sharing from everyone with regards to the trials they have to put through. If we put our problems bigger that Allah, we will be distanced from Him, He will not send us the helps that we need. But if we put our faith in Him and we endure it patiently, He will reward us with healing, increase in our faith, iman and the sweetness of trials in the dunia. I got goosebumps hearing stories shared during usrah when her friend lost her trust in Allah when she was tested in this life. We also discuss about trials that lead to depression, sihir and jins. Since i have been binge-watch Pusat Rawatan al Idrus for the past 2 weeks in Youtube and Facebook, i shared with them on what I have learnt so far and how sadness will open the door for the jins to enter our body. Alhamdulillah, i used to have depression back then, but now i am totally healed as i know how to handle the problems already. Alhamdulillah for the syifa' that He gave me.

Our first usrah session in 2021

Driving to and fro workplace, I always ask Allah to give me the strength to face the trials and tribulations in life as much as how He created the mighty sky above me. And for Him make my soul as beautiful as He created the colors of the sky so beautiful in my eyes.

Sunday, my freelance mode is ON and I have to work for it and attend properties webinar at night

Wassalam~

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Five Life Lessons from 2020

NY - Saturday, January 2, 2021

 

Five Life Lessons from 2020

1. We only have the present moment. The past is only a memory and the future is just a wish.

2. Your pain will hurt less when you accept it.

3. Do not look for happiness outside yourself. Seek from the inside of yourself.

4. Nothing stays still. Change is inevitable.

5. Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Don't be judgmental. Be kind.

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Closing 2020 with Giveaways to 3 People that Influence My Thoughts and Life

NY - Sunday, December 20, 2020

I have been thinking to share some meaningful gifts to the top three persons whom thoughts, sharing and knowledge have been influencing my life in 2020. And I guess I shall make it an annual routine as a means for me to appreciate people who listens, responds and give good advices about life to me.

Since I have been planning to give 2021 planners and books, I am currently browsing through several websites to find materials which suits to their current interest and aspirations.

Hopefully my gift will contribute to their success in life =D

The chosen ones for 2020:

1. Ms A.S.R

2. Ms F.B

3. Mr I.G

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The Last Month in 2020!

NY - Monday, December 14, 2020

 Lookin' back in time, 2020 is indeed filled with surprises, but 

I do believe that some of the most scenic routes in life are the detours you did not mean to take. 

 I believe the blessings are in the battle.

 With His countless blessings this year, 

I am able to meet with new circles of friends, new teachers, life mentor.

Alhamdulillah. 2020 is a blessed year, full of inspirations and life-changing experiences.

Just what I always asked from Him in my du'a.

For Him to remove people who are not good for my future and my deen, and to bring me closer to people that will bring me closer to His deen.

 

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Da'i Syed, Kisah Maryam dan "Woman Empowerment"

NY - Tuesday, December 8, 2020

Idea nak tulis blogpost ni datang lepas baca tentang kes Da'i Syed yg viral lately. 

To be honest, I dont really mind what really happen to him. Whether it's true or not, hanya Allah yg lebih tahu.

But then, dalam kes ni jadi viral, one thing that caught my interest was when I read about the victim's effort to meet Da'i Syed sebab nak berbincang kaedah utk atasi masalah kemurungan yg dihadapi.

Tak pasti lah cerita nya benar atau tak. Tapi kes2 macam ni surely pernah berlaku. Ada je kes agamawan yang mengambil kesempatan pada wanita. Kerana mereka ni golongan disegani kerana ada ilmu, the public often seek their helps and put their trust on them.

Tapi tu lah. Tak semua pun menggunakan kelebihan yang diberikan tuhan dengan cara yang benar. Takutnya, yang baru nak dekat dengan Islam pun rasa jijik sebab benda2 macam ni dan akhirnya tak jadi nak mendalami agama. Teringat pulak kes paedophilia scandal dalam gereja yg semakin berleluasa. Tak kan la mereka yg sepatutnya jadi barisan hadapan agama ni sanggup nak tengok agama Islam ni dipandang rendah sebab kes2 yg lebih kurang sama? No wonder mereka ni antara golongan pertama yg dihisab Allah. Sebab peranan mereka tu besar, tanggungjawab mereka pun berat, dan kesan dari tingkah laku mereka juga besar.

Sebenarnya kalau difikirkan, mungkin banyak lagi kes2 macam ni yang berlaku dekat malaysia tapi tak dilaporkan. Siapa je nak dedahkan aib sendiri walaupun bukan salah sendiri? Ada yang keluarga sendiri menghalang daripada buat laporan kerana nak jaga nama keluarga. Last2 mangsa alami depresi dan trauma, low self confident dan putus asa untuk bersuara.

So girls,

If you ever being the victim of sexual abuse or bullies. Do not ever give up hope.

It is indeed a great trial.

Ingat tak kisah Maryam dalam AQ yang diceritakan Allah. 

Bayangkan jika kamu Maryam, lahir dalam latar belakang keluarga yang baik2 dan disegani masyarakat. Pasti tahap kecaman yg diterima lagi dahsyat, dan lagi2 dia wanita yang sangat baik. Bayangkan tahap kecewa dia apabila terpaksa menanggung sesuatu yang mengundang kecaman orang, lagi2 bukan mudah sepanjang masa mengandung dan melahirkan tu.

Dan jika kamu sebagai mangsa menerima kecaman masyarakat walaupun kamu tak initiate perkara2 tersebut, atau hanyalah mangsa keadaan. Maka bersabarlah. Kerana kebenaran akan terserlah.

Dalam alQuran;

Maka Maryam hamilah mengandungnya, lalu ia memencilkan diri dengan kandungannya itu ke sebuah tempat yang jauh.

(Maryam 19:22) 

Dalam keadaan mengelakkan kecaman masyarakat, perbuatan memencilkan diri mampu membantu emosi wanita.

Dan juga,

"Maka makanlah dan minumlah serta bertenanglah hati dari segala yang merunsingkan. Kemudian kalau engkau melihat seseorang manusia, maka katakanlah: Sesungguhnya aku bernazar diam membisu kerana (Allah) Ar-Rahman; (setelah aku menyatakan yang demikian) maka aku tidak akan berkata-kata kepada sesiapapun dari kalangan manusia pada hari ini".

(Maryam 19:26) 

Berdiam diri adalah penyelesaian terbaik, kerana manusia akan masih berkata-kata. Apabila pertanyaan demi pertanyaan diajukan dan jawapan yang diberi mungkin tidak akan memuaskan hati semua pihak, ia mungkin akan menyebabkan tekanan perasaan yang lebih hebat kerana sifat sarcasm sesetengah manusia yang hanya ingin melihat mangsa jadi helpless.

Dan seterusnya, Allah mengisahkan bagaimana Maryam terpaksa kembali dan menghadapi kesukaran dengan masyarakat yang menghukum, judgmental dan suka membanding-bandingkan (memang sama je dengan sikap netizen zaman sekarang)

Kemudian baliklah ia kepada kaumnya dengan mendokong anaknya mereka pun menempelaknya dengan berkata: Wahai Maryam! Sesungguhnya engkau telah melakukan suatu perkara yang besar salahnya!

(Maryam 19:27)

" Wahai saudara perempuan Harun, bapamu bukanlah seorang yang buruk akhlaknya, dan ibumu pula bukanlah seorang perempuan jahat!"

(Maryam 19:28)

Dan atas segala kesusahan yang dihadapi Maryam, Allah anugerahkan anak yang mampu berkata-kata. Ia yang sepatutnya menjadi bukti kebenaran Maryam namun mereka masih berselisihan tentang apa yang mereka harus percaya.

Kemudian, golongan-golongan (dari kaumnya) itu berselisihan sesama sendiri. Maka kecelakaanlah bagi orang-orang kafir (yang berselisihan) itu, dari apa yang disaksikan pada hari yang besar huru-haranya.

(Maryam 19:37)

So satu hari nanti, seperti kisah Maryam di dalam alQuran. Allah akan bantu kalian juga dengan memperlihatkan perkara yang sebenar. Namun, walaupun kebenaran akan muncul, akan ada juga manusia akan masih akan mengecam anda. Dan anda seharusnya sabar menghadapi dugaan ini sebagaimana sabarnya Maryam menjalankan perintah dan suruhan Allah SWT.

But for me, the best part is of all the trials in this worldly Duniya is that, it will never last =)

Your hardship and your sadness is not meant to be for forever.

And those whom you think is having the best time of their life filled with happiness and wealth and all the good things, believe me, their life also has its ups and down.

Eventually, semua orang akan kehilangan segalanya dalam dunia. Termasuklah suami, isteri, ibu bapa, anak2 kesayangan, harta benda dan perniagaan. Semua akan lenyap dan tidak berguna.

So there's no need to be sad. as there is another life waiting for us. A life where sadness do not exist. A life in His Jannah =)

So please aim to enter His Jannah dear friends. You will never be disappointed ever after...